Dating a man who is recently separated
People often wonder about dating someone who is separated—not officially divorced. I have been separated for over a year, with young kids I have half the time.
Read this email I received from a reader who is having problems in online dating because he is separated–not officially divorced.
It’s not going to be easy, but it’s necessary for you to completely heal and move on.
What you’re about to read is what I’ve learned by talking to hundreds of guys who have been through a divorce plus all of the research I have done over the years.
I’m not looking to rush back into a marriage, but I’m looking to date with an intent on finding a relationship.
It’s what feels right for me and I feel ready for it.
My divorce is amicable and I maintain a good relationship with my ex.
There’s no love there though, we’ve clearly moved on. I have my stuff together…own my own place, pursuing an MBA, good job, do the best for my kids, and I’m in a good place right now.
What’s more, guys who have been through a divorce generally aren’t in a huge hurry to get back on the horse and start dating again. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.What I’ve noticed is that no woman seems to want to touch me with a 10 foot pole because I’m ‘separated.’ My divorce is pending and will be finalized in September (it’s written better in the profile).One woman proceeded to tell me “recently divorced people are somewhat unstable emotionally”. He was also recently separated, had a son, and came with some baggage. He would go to work in the morning, while I languidly pulled myself from sleep and into my home office. One thing is true, though: he was way more to me than just a married man.